Born to be loved

HG has been through his terrible twos and now going onto his terrible threes. This current maternity leave stay in Japan has been stressful but has brought some important revelations. Let me first start with a bit about HG. He is a very bright but very stubborn kid with very particular likes/dislikes. He loves what he likes and obsesses over his current fads (dinosaurs for now). I can already see a little OCD trait in him. He will listen to the same song or youtube video over and over and over, memorizing it and re-enacting it. Like many toddlers, he throws tantrums when he doesn't get his way. And he will seriously let you know when something does not happen exactly to his liking. I was deep down very anxious before the 2nd son AK was born, afraid of the possible negative reactions that HG may have. I was also worried he may even get a little physical (hitting and such). But to our greatest surprise and relief, HG has been a splendid older brother. So gentle, wanting to help w